I too, like majority of you in our teachers’ community used to blame students for not able to manage the class well, in the initial years of my career. As time pass by, I experienced myself evolving as a teacher who is having a good command in the classroom. I realise now that, it was possible by gatheringsome indispensable qualities ofa teacher from the field experience. This is a magic formula to convertthe unresourcefulbehavior of students to resourceful and progressive one.
Adroit teachers discipline the class with encouragement and kind words much more often than shouting, rebukes or reprimands. The objective is to help students feel good about themselves and their behavior in the classroom.
Inevitably, though, misbehavior happens. However, when it does, keep the collected wisdom of experienced teachers in mind:
- Take a deep breath and try to remain calm. It's natural to be overwhelmed with frustration, resentment, and anger.
- Try to set a positive tone and model an appropriate response, even if it means you must take a few moments to compose yourself. Acknowledge that you need time to think, time to respond.
- Make sure students understand that it's their misbehavior you dislike, not them. "I like you, Faiyaz, however, your behavior is unacceptable."
- Give the misbehaving student a chance to respond positively by explaining not only what he or she is doing wrong, but also what he or she can do to correct it.
- Never resort to blame or ridicule.
- Avoid win-lose conflicts. Emphasize problem-solving instead of punishment.
- Insist that students accept responsibility for their behavior.
- Try to remain courteous in the face of hostility or anger. Showing students that you care about them and establish rapport.
- Treat all students respectfully and politely. Nofavouritism in the class .
- Be an attentive listener. Encourage students to talk out feelings and concerns and help them clarify their comments by elucidating them.
- Model the behavior you expect from your students. You are expecting good behavior from students side , right ? Are you as organized and on-task as you tell them to be? Are your regimented rules being clear and easy for students to follow?
- Specifically describe misbehavior and help students understand the ramification of misbehavior. Teenagers may even need your explanations modeled or acted out.
- Be aware of cultural differences. For example, you have been teaching in India but now you are teaching in Qatar, innumerous differences.
- Discourage cliques and other antisocial behavior. Offer cooperative activities to encourage group identity.
- Teach students personal and social skills — communicating, listening, helping, and sharing.
- Teach students academic survival skills, such as paying attention, following directions, asking for help when they really need it, and volunteering to answer.
- Avoid labeling students as "good" or "bad." Instead describe their behavior as "positive," "acceptable," "disruptive," or "unacceptable."
- Focus on recognizing and rewarding acceptable behavior more than punishing misbehavior.
- Ignore or minimize minor problems instead of disrupting the class .
- Where reprimands are necessary, state them quickly and without disrupting the class.
- When it's necessary to speak to a student about his or her behavior, try to speak in private; this is especially true of adolescents who must "perform" for their peers. Public reprimands or lectures often trigger exaggeration and exacerbate the situation.
When Personalities Clash
Sometimes, despite our best intentions , some students may be rude, disrespectful, disruptive, obnoxious, or annoying. It's justa human nature; some personalities clash. But instead of feeling guilty about our feelings, we can take positive steps to improve them, says school psychologist and teacher Shelley Krapes. Here are some of her suggestions:
- Try to understand where the behavior is coming from. Is the student distressed by a death, divorce, new baby, learning disability, or some other overwhelming experience in home? Speaking to the student's parents or guardian may shed light on underlying causes and help you develop sympathy through understanding.
- Help yourself manage negative feelings by reflecting on a past situation in your life where a similar conflict occurred. Discuss the situation with a friend or by writing your thoughts in a journal. Making and understanding these connections can help you let go of some of your current hostility or resentment.
- Use positive strategies when dealing with the child. One such strategy is addressing specific behaviors with precise language that describes what needs to be done. In addition, try to seat the student near to you or a helpful student, praise the student liberally but sincerely, give the student choices to promote self-worth and feelings of control, be firm and consistent about your rules, and express displeasure with the student's behavior without criticizing the student.
Those students who are exuberant, loquacious or chatty; apparently they have gigantic positive energy, being a responsible teacher,it’s our obligation to transform these unidirectional energy to productive energy .
Let us be very cautious when we deal with human minds because, a slight variation from our end may result in ruining a precious life on earth. Be compassionate to every child in front of you and keep on seeking for new tools to shape the next generation.